5 Tips To Full Birth Healing

by Rachel Simpson | Wellness, Self Care, Spirituality

Postpartum healing is often overlooked, especially during the 4th trimester. In my own journey, I encountered a significant challenge during my first birth: severe back labor. Little did I know that the excruciating pain, lasting over 48 hours, would lead to debilitating back spasms for years afterward.

For the past two decades, these back spasms have intermittently plagued me, showing up randomly. Frustrated with managing the pain through temporary methods, I have embarked on a healing path to finally resolve this issue for good. My healer once told me, “once postpartum, always postpartum.” Our bodies undergo profound changes during pregnancy and birth, and finding true balance afterward can take years, depending on self-care.

I could have started this healing journey sooner, but like many others, I didn’t prioritize myself. If you tend to put everyone else first, keep reading. I want to share my lessons with you to save you years of potential pain and unresolved birth trauma.

Pregnancy, birth, and motherhood are transformative experiences that reshape us fundamentally. We are never the same afterward, and trying to revert to our pre-baby selves, including our bodies and independence, doesn’t serve us. Motherhood is a remarkable gift of life, but it’s essential for our bodies to heal, so we’re no longer “cracked wide open.”

Healing serves our bodies by restoring the alignment and breathing patterns we had before pregnancy. This subtle difference is crucial. The goal here is to help you return to your natural state sooner and avoid common postpartum ailments.

Many women experience lingering symptoms not just in the months but years after giving birth, including:

  • Diastasis Recti
  • Incontinence
  • Pelvic misalignment
  • Back pain
  • Ovarian cysts
  • Pain during intercourse
  • Open birth patterns
  • Bowel issues like leakage or constipation
  • Pelvic Organ Prolapse

If you genuinely want to heal from childbirth, prevent these issues, and not only regain normalcy but also find deep pleasure in your body and bring ease into motherhood, consider these top 5 approaches:

  1. Sink into deep self-love.
  2. Embrace your queen identity.
  3. Use food as medicine.
  4. Prioritize your pelvic health.
  5. Expedite your healing journey by finding your support pillar.

Sink Into Deep Self Love

Have you ever considered whether your body leans more toward the masculine side? As women in a patriarchal society, it’s common for us to embody masculine traits because that’s the cultural norm. We often find ourselves in a constant state of action, taking steps, and handling various responsibilities – all of which are characteristics of masculine energy. While there’s nothing inherently wrong with this, maintaining such an energy after giving birth can be challenging.

After childbirth, we often experience a shift in our energy. We still desire to do, be, and produce, but there’s resistance. The question arises: where is this resistance coming from? To navigate postpartum with ease and ensure an abundance of milk flow, we are compelled to embrace the feminine energy fully.

Both our babies and our feminine-bodied energies operate differently from the “do, do, do” and action-driven approach. In the postpartum period, it’s beneficial to align with the energies of allowing, surrendering, releasing, and letting go.

During this time, consider letting go and releasing old patterns and limiting blocks from your life. Allow yourself to step back from the constant doing. Allow others to contribute, particularly when it comes to food preparation. Surrender to the natural rhythms of your baby, and release yourself into love, connection, and bonding.

Explore self-care practices such as massage, including self-massage on your skin. Pay attention to your womb space and engage in sensual touch. Tune into your desires, identify your moment-to-moment needs, and don’t hesitate to ask for what you require.

Consider how you can meet your own needs and become your best advocate in fulfilling your desires. Ask yourself, “What would love do?” These questions are not only helpful for you but also for your baby, ensuring their needs are met.

Remember that you can’t fully meet your baby’s needs if your own cup is empty. Therefore, prioritize self-care. Reflect on one nice thing you can do for yourself today. Instead of expecting it from your partner, consider how you can fulfill it yourself. Lead by example in demonstrating the kind of love and care you want for yourself.

Consider various self-love practices, such as epsom salt baths, nature walks, yoni steam baths, heart/womb holding, meditation, and self-cervix practices (for details, feel free to private message me). Explore how you can cultivate intimacy with yourself.

Finally, consider sharing your self-love practices and experiences with others. Encourage discussions on what individuals do for their self-love practices and learn from one another’s self-care journeys.

Adopt a Queen Identity

If the first step towards embracing your queen identity didn’t quite get you there, that’s perfectly okay. Keep at it because there are other ways to step into your queen mode.

Consider this scenario: You are the queen of England. Picture yourself getting dressed for the day in the finest dresses or suits. You convene with the royal family to discuss the day’s affairs. Seated at the head of the table, you confidently give directives. While this might not align with your natural tendencies and initially feel uncomfortable, with time and a shift in mindset, it can be precisely what you need for postpartum healing.

As you remain focused on your baby (or your kingdom), others handle tasks around you. You effectively “direct the family business” by guiding others to assist you. While it may take them longer to accomplish what you could do in a day, remember that they are learning, and this arrangement is temporary. Giving up control of how things are done becomes your practice. The better you become at this, the smoother life will be after.

Imagine how life looks when you sit on your “throne” in bed. Visualize and articulate this image with your words. Consider holding daily meetings with your spouse to discuss daily tasks. Creating a shared document for tasks and sharing it with your family or community can also be immensely helpful. In the early weeks and months, your primary tasks are self-healing and caring for your baby. Running around or returning to tasks too soon can be tempting but may lead to missed feeding cues and unnecessary late-stage hunger crying.

Adopting the queen identity is a temporary phase in our lives as new mothers. I recommend trying it on for size and savoring the experience of being the mother queen because it’s a birthright that comes with a unique and wonderful flow.

Use Food As Medicine

Recall the last time you enjoyed a satisfying meal that left you feeling truly nourished and satisfied. That same sense of fulfillment is precisely what you need as you embark on your healing journey after childbirth.

Your body is now craving essential nutrients and minerals to support both the quality and quantity of milk your baby needs to thrive and be content. A well-nourished mother often translates to a contented baby and improved sleep. To meet these nutritional needs, your body craves nutrient-dense foods.

Opt for warm broths, steamed vegetables, or high-fat proteins to satisfy your body’s requirements for milk production and healing. If you’re pregnant, consider preparing and freezing meals in advance. If you’re already in the postpartum phase, focus on foods like sweet potatoes, vegetable or meat broths, lactogenic foods like papaya and dates, and high-fat options like organic chicken thighs or coconut cream in curry soup.

Eating foods rich in healthy fats during this period provides your baby with the essential high-fat milk needed for brain development. Many clients have reported significant reductions in their baby’s fussiness simply by increasing the intake of healthy fats.

Consider the saying, “Feed a cold and starve a fever.” This adage reflects the idea of using food as medicine. When you feel a cold coming on, reaching for healthy foods can often resolve the issue quickly. It’s a practice that can work wonders because food can indeed act as medicine.

Healing after a healthy pregnancy and birth follows the same principle. Your body requires proper nutrition to support recovery, and nourishing foods are the medicine necessary to sustain and nurture new life.

While breastfeeding is undoubtedly the best choice for babies, the milk doesn’t always automatically contain all the necessary nutrients to strengthen your baby’s immune system. Utilizing food as medicine ensures that both you and your baby receive the healing benefits. Chicken soup, for example, can be highly effective.

If you’re interested in optimizing your nutrition for the benefit of your baby, consider a nutrition consultation. Such consultations are available to clients, aiming to provide the best possible milk for your little one.

Prioritize Your Pelvis

You have all heard the benefits of yoga for the body, mind, and spirit.

Often gentle movements, like yoga, are wonderful for postpartum healing.

However, so often, after our birth, we need much more than simple stretching. Let’s look at the timing expectations for healing. Growing the baby took 9-10 months. Therefore, healing also needs to have enough time. Society has created an expectation that we bounce back to our pre-baby selves in 12 weeks.

This is an area in women’s health that needs to have light shed on it now so we can lift that unattainable expectation for women.

While our pelvises are open during most of the first year, we can injure ourselves. Or, if there was any birth trauma, we can hold that in our tissues where it later on causes havoc in our lives.

You can learn techniques to do on yourself, or can choose to see an expert for hands-on assistance.

Either way, by tending to our womb space in supportive and loving ways, allows our body, mind, and spirit to enter motherhood and sets us up for ease, pleasure, and a confidence in knowing what to do and feeling like a success.

If our bodies are struggling, or our womb area is unhealed, there can be emotional overwhelm and stress. Unfortunately, this can be a shaky ground to begin your journey. Your baby will sense the lack of confidence and then a downward spiral begins.

When we heal our internal domain, with expert guidance or self-awareness, we ground and center into our motherhood intuition. With womb healing, you can act from an internal place of knowing and certainty.

For further resources, they can be found at the end of this article.

Find Your Pillar 

The final step in achieving full postpartum healing is finding your support pillar. Motherhood is not meant to be a solitary journey, and having a pillar of support can make a world of difference. In this discussion, we will explore the concept of a support pillar and how it can positively impact early parenting and postpartum healing.

A pillar can take various forms. It could be your partner, family members such as your mom, step-mom, or mother-in-law. In today’s world where families are often spread across the country, many new moms find themselves having to navigate this transformative period on their own. However, it’s crucial to emphasize that motherhood was never meant to be tackled in isolation.

Finding your support pillar may involve different approaches. You can consider joining an in-person support group, becoming part of an online membership community, or even seeking the guidance of an expert, like myself, to serve as your personal guide. Especially in early parenting, partners may want to be helpful but may also be new to the experience. Having an expert’s perspective can be immensely beneficial in ensuring that both the baby and mom (as well as the partner) find their rhythm and harmony.

Regardless of which form your pillar takes, the ultimate goal is to find ease in early parenting. Motherhood is an exciting journey as you welcome a brand new life into the world. It’s a time filled with anticipation and joy. However, the reality is that many moms struggle during the 4th trimester, a period that has the potential to be truly amazing but often brings feelings of anxiety and sadness.

Understanding how to navigate these weeks, months, and years following pregnancy and birth is essential. When you learn to manage this period and achieve true healing, you will look back on this time with fond memories. Remember, your baby is only little once, and finding your healing path is the best way to ensure a positive outcome that you and your family will cherish for the rest of your lives.

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5 Tips To Full Birth Healing by Rachel Simpson

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Rachel Simpson
New Mom Coach at Simpson Lactation Services <br>

Rachel Simpson is a coach for new moms and an infant feeding expert (IBCLC).


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